stilesisbiles:
theoroark:
Went through the search histories for “asexual” of some urls on a lgbtqia disccourse post, as I do, and saw a person go from supportive of ace people to hating them as the disccourse ramped up. I don’t think people realize how common this is. A few years back there was this massive furor over the person who ran the fuckh8 company being an aphobe, and now “x is an aphobe” is a joke on this site. It used to be trendy to think ace people were valid, now it’s trendy to think they’re homophobic special snowflakes. It’s so clearly not motivated by any kind of logic or conviction. It’s just people have gotten the green light to shit on a group they didn’t care about to begin with (but had to pretend like they did because of social pressure). And so they’re going for it. It makes me so sad and scared.
Honestly as a bi trans person I have lived through years-hell, over a decade-of biphobia and biphobic ‘discourse’, and being treated like shit for being trans by cis people in the community, and still experience that shit all the time, and am constantly gaslighted that it ‘never happened and never happens’, and saying it did and does is ‘homophobic’ and makes me ‘scum who should die’.
I see this ace discourse and wonder how many are pretending to be bi and trans friendly because it’s become a trend to fake acceptance of us. It scares the shit out of me. I don’t know who to trust anymore. If people will turn on ace folk this quickly, how can I trust their ‘support’ of any other group?
They’ve made it clear their ‘acceptance’ to me is conditional already by saying I have to reject ace people-which would include my life partner-to be ‘accepted’ as part of the community, or to even interact with it at all. I don’t want to lose all of my (very) little remaining hope in humanity but my own ‘community’ is pushing me toward that.
(via twinpoetry)